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PostSubject: First Impressions   Thu Jun 09, 2016 11:26 am

First Impressions

Within minutes of meeting someone, we know if we are attracted to them. Our hearts beat faster, our pupils dilate and if we’ve got it really bad, we get dizzy, light headed feeling. But one thing’s for sure, we make up our minds pretty fast. However much we try to think with our heads, it seems that the heart leads the way. Attraction is a complicated matter. Often we like someone for reasons we don’t even understand at first. Then as time progresses, we discover more about them, and them about us, and one might find similar mannerisms and values, similar hobbies, similar likes and dislikes, and then the understanding falls into place.

People from diverse cultures and eras all over the world seem to agree on the basic principles of beauty. In certain cultures, however, people enhance their physical attraction in some decidedly different ways. Burmese women, add brass rings to their necks - starting with 5 in childhood and working up to about 24 in adulthood – to make their necks look elongated and more attractive.


Some tribes in Africa use lip lugs to highlight and extend the lips.



Meanwhile, the Tlv men of Africa cut their bodies to form patterned scars in an attempt to appeal to the tastes of the Tlv women… Ouchy!

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PostSubject: Re: First Impressions   Thu Jun 09, 2016 11:27 am

Experts believe that attraction starts off in the hypothalamus (a pea sized centre in the brain). A chain reaction is triggered, which culminates in the production of the hormones oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone. These all contribute to the symptoms we associate with being in love or lust, such as a thumping heart. The moods that go with true love are caused by this too; the feeling of being on top of the world to the feeling of depression and desperation when we are away from that person. It’s easy to see why love at first sight happens. There is no denying that looks help a lot when it comes to attraction, but that being said, only the very shallow could stay with someone simply for their looks – if that was the case, those without a ‘perfect’ waist to hip ratio wouldn’t find love at all!

This is where personality comes in. If you believe in yourself, and you know that you are worthy of someone’s else’s love then others will believe it too. ‘Chemistry’ can be created by other factors. To really hit it off with someone, we have to share similar interests, senses of humour and values. Without this common denominator, the relationship will never last. Being able to laugh at the same things together is very important. We also have to feel that the other person likes us back. All these elements help a relationship to move into the long term. Often, when we love somebody for their personality, we barely notice how they look.

These first impression can be nearly impossible to reverse or undo, making those first encounters extremely important, for they set the tone for all the relationships that follows. So, whether they are in your career or social life, it's important to know how to create a good first impression.

Someone you are meeting for the first time is not interested in your "good excuse" for running late. Plan to arrive a few minutes early. And allow flexibility for possible delays in traffic or taking a wrong turn. Arriving early is much better that arriving late, hands down, and is the first step in creating a great first impression. Be Yourself, Be at Ease. If you are feeling uncomfortable and on edge, this can make the other person ill at ease and that's a sure way to create the wrong impression. If you are calm and confident, so the other person will feel more at ease, and so have a solid foundation for making that first impression a good one.

Of course physical appearance matters. The person you are meeting for the first time does not know you and your appearance is usually the first clue he or she has to go on. But it certainly does not mean you need to look like a model to create a strong and positive first impression. No. The key to a good impression is to present yourself appropriately. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, and so the "picture" you first present says much about you to the person you are meeting. Is your appearance saying the right things to help create the right first impression?

Start with the way you dress. What is the appropriate dress for the meeting or occasion? In a business setting, what is the appropriate business attire? Suit, blazer, casual? And ask yourself what the person you'll be meeting is likely to wear – if your contact is in advertising or the music industry, a pinstripe business suit may not strike the right note!

For business and social meetings, appropriate dress also varies between countries and cultures, so it's something that you should pay particular attention to when in an unfamiliar setting or country. Make sure you know the traditions and norms.

And what about your grooming? Clean and tidy appearance is appropriate for most business and social occasions. A good haircut or shave. Clean and tidy clothes. Neat and tidy make up. Make sure your grooming is appropriate and helps make you feel "the part".

Appropriate dressing and grooming help make a good first impression and also help you feel "the part", and so feel more calm and confident. Add all of this up and you are well on your way to creating a good first impression. The good news is you can usually create a good impression without total conformity or losing your individuality. Yes, to make a good first impression you do need to "fit in" to some degree. But it all goes back to being appropriate for the situation. If in a business setting, wear appropriate business attire. If at a formal evening social event, wear appropriate evening attire. And express your individuality appropriately within that context. When it comes to making the first impression, body language as well as appearance speaks much louder than words.

Use your body language to project appropriate confidence and self-assurance. Stand tall, smile (of course), make eye contact, greet with a firm handshake. All of this will help you project confidence and encourage both you and the other person to feel better at ease. Almost everyone gets a little nervous when meeting someone for the first time, which can lead to nervous habits or sweaty palms. By being aware of your nervous habits, you can try to keep them in check, and controlling a nervous jitter or a nervous laugh will give you confidence and help the other person feel at ease, even if by trying to make the other person feel at ease you end up spilling coffee over them…. Lol

Your attitude shows through in everything you do. Project a positive attitude, even in the face of criticism or in the case of nervousness. Strive to learn from your meeting and to contribute appropriately, maintaining an upbeat manner and a smile. It goes without saying that good manners and polite, attentive and courteous behaviour help make a good first impression. In fact, anything less can ruin the one chance you have at making that first impression. So be on your best behaviour!

One modern manner worth mentioning is "turn off your mobile phone". What first impression will you create if you are already speaking to someone other than the person you are meeting for the first time? Your new acquaintance deserves 100% of your attention. Anything less and you'll create a less than good first impression.

Much of what you need to do to make a good impression is common sense. But with a little extra thought and preparation, you can hone your intuitive style and make every first impression not just good but great.
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